a better place

When it comes time to go to a funeral, as we all must – life isn’t just weddings you know, what do you say? Do you say, “She’s in a better place now”? I’ve said that before, and today has me wondering if it’s true.

I like asking people what they think we are, how (if) they compartmentalize being. Some people go crazy, they claim, “We’re body, soul, mind, heart, and spirit.” That’s never made any sense to me. The most I’ll consent to is two parts of being, body and soul. But I wouldn’t argue with you if you claimed we’re holistic, that we can’t be broken into parts. Maybe you’ve never cared or thought about it – but I think it matters when you go to a funeral.

If you think we are beings with parts (body, soul…), then you probably hold the Greek inspired view that when we die, we’re ripped apart. The body goes down into the grave, and the soul goes up to heaven (or down to hell). But if you think that we’re not beings who can be broken into parts, then maybe you aren’t so sure about “going to a better place.” I haven’t come to much conclusion, and here is why.

If we are two parts (or more), then why is it necessary for Christ to raise us up on the last day? If our soul, apart from our physical body, goes to the good place when we die, then what are we waiting for? Why do we need to be made new? Paul tells us, “the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed.”

But if we are one part, then maybe when we die, we don’t “fly high” – maybe heaven does not “gain another angel.” Maybe our being, our whole self descends into the grave inside a casket. And maybe our loved ones console each other not with, “She’s in a better place” but with “Christ will raise her up again.” Just as Jesus laid in a tomb, heart unbeating, breath unbreathing, and then was raised up to new life and glorification, maybe we go down into the earth, dying in faith that he will not leave us there forever. Maybe Christ is called the firstborn from among the dead because we too will be born up out of the earth.

I haven’t decided, but I think I like that second view better – that he will raise me up. It helps me believe that my present darkness is not forever, that if from this earth I go down into hell, into darkness, even into death, I go down in hope that Christ will raise me up again. The one who himself laid lifeless in the dark will shine on me, breathe in me, raise me up, and pull me out.

“Do not gloat over me, my enemy! Though I have fallen, I will rise. Though I sit in darkness, the Lord will be my light…He will bring me out into the light.” (Micah 7).

Published by javenbear

Javen Bear is 25 years old and lives with his beautiful wife Aleisha in Phoenix, Arizona. He's a graduate student in a mental health counseling program at Grand Canyon University where he also works as an admissions representative. Javen’s super-power, if he had one, would be the ability to press pause on the world and catch up on reading. He enjoys talking walks with his wife, playing guitar, and always uses Oxford commas.

3 thoughts on “a better place

  1. I was just talking to someone about this topic yesterday. What odd timing.

    I won’t claim to know what exactly happens when we die (I’ve never done it myself, personally). When I was younger, I held to the common belief you stated first, that the empty body is buried and the soul, which has already vacated, flies up to heaven. Then our loved ones look down on us from above. It’s a comforting view. But then I came to the same verses you mentioned, and it suddenly didn’t make as much sense.

    Nowadays I’m mostly okay with being confused about stuff (His ways are higher than our ways). What we have to remember is that our timeline, finite and linear as it is, is not God’s timeline. He exists outside of our concept of time.

    So what I like to think happens when we die is that our earthly bodies cease functioning and our souls go into sleep mode. Then, when Christ returns, all souls will awaken, and His children will follow Him into paradise. But however many years pass on Earth, it will be like going to sleep and waking up 8 hours later in what feels like a second. Because honestly our lives here on Earth, and the entire history and future of Earth itself, are mere blips on the radar of eternity.

    Not sure I described that as well as I could have, but I’m trying not to write an entirely separate blog post in your comments, haha.

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    1. Thanks for sharing, Megan. I like the idea you talked about. I do have to wonder why Jesus told the guy on the cross beside him, “you will be with me today in paradise.” I think maybe ‘today’ can mean several things.

      It’s fun to think about anyway.


  2. I’ve think I’ve only commented on anything once before but this is worth it. I was very intrigued by your thoughts. I’m still searching scripture on the subject but came across 1 Thessalonians 4:14 which would indicate that God will bring with him those who have died… Unless my interpretation is wrong and wondered about the many stories and a few books I’ve read on ppl who have seen heaven and their loved ones there. Thank you for getting me to study up on it!

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